Consent is like a cup of tea book

Though the book steers clear of explicit sexual content, brian adds that. Dec 06, 2019 in tea consent, the team behind the video explains sexual consent by using the analogy of making a cup of tea for someone. The cup of tea sexual consent metaphor should be required. Mostly because i believe that i know what consent is and im pretty sure that the result of being made to digest lukewarm tea isnt comparable to the result of being raped.

Since its debut months ago, several police departments and educational platforms have used the sex video to elaborate such a sensitive discussion. Understanding consent with a cup of tea boing boing. I dont think that i could do anything other than say yes please, id love a cup of tea even if i didnt actually want a cup of tea. Sexual consent really isnt like a cup of tea but at least. Set during wwi, the story begins when the privileged rosemary fell decides to bring home a poor young lady from the street for a cup of tea. Inspired by the classic katherine mansfield short story, a cup of tea springs to life from its rich cast of characters and brilliant evocation of the uncertain days of world war i. If they are lifting the teacup to their mouth, they consent. Leave it to the brits to perfectly explain sexual consent by comparing it to tea. Copyright 2015 emmeline may and blue seat studios noncommercial use.

Dont just assume that they are comfortable with it. The video says that those struggling to understand sexual consent might imagine that, instead of initiating sex, theyre offering to make someone a cup of. How sexual consent is much like offering a cup of tea an animated video using the metaphor of offering tea is being circulated far and wide to clear the air on sexual consent once and for all. First of all, its clearly a novel set in 2015, pretending to be set in world war 1.

I dont think theres any way i could be cool and say. It made me feel bittersweet not because i did not like it or anything like that but because i just really want to know what happens to everyone which makes me excited about kats part two. Nov 20, 2015 sexual consent really isnt like a cup of tea but at least were talking about it. This video shows why consent should never be confusing. While it can be tempting to simplify consent into hey, would you like a cup of tea. This is a version for children which covers consent, boundaries, and bodily autonomy, abuse, grooming and bullying, in a gentle and easy to understand way. Youll never look at a cup of oolong the same way again. Download it once and read it on your kindle device, pc, phones or tablets. With all the supposed gray areas regarding what constitutes consent, blogger rockstardinosaurpirateprincess has cleared up the topic using tea as an example. Oct 25, 2017 recently i saw a great analogy, something that i found very useful in my work with clients who experienced sexual assault.

Just imagine instead of initiating sex, youre making them a cup of tea. Jun, 2016 tea and consent video this video brilliantly explains sexual consent with a simple cup of tea analogy. Briefly put, it places the idea of making someone a cup of tea in place of having sex. Recently i saw a great analogy, something that i found very useful in my work with clients who experienced sexual assault. The makers of the viral tea consent video have a new book. My boys now aged 3 and 6 are constantly asking questions about bodies and growing up and how babies get into mommies bellies.

Mar 05, 2020 with her viral videos and a new book, r. However, before i go deeper into explaining why i find this analogy useful and show you the video, i would like to say something about sexual assault itself. A cartoon that explains how understanding sexual consent is as straightforward as making a cup of tea is doing the rounds. This darkly romantic novel engages us with impeccable plotting and a deep sense of. In this hilarious and enlightening new animated video from blue seat studios, consensual sex is explained in a way that everyone can understand. The animation is being promoted as part of a social media campaign by the crown prosecution service, thames valley police, rape crisis and other uk agencies. I dont think its ever too early to answer questions about sex. In tea consent, the team behind the video explains sexual consent by using the analogy of making a cup of tea for someone. Sure, you can feel annoyed after all that effort you went to to make a cup of tea for them. There is much more to consent than what the video explored. How sexual consent is much like offering a cup of tea. Amy tiemann is a neuroscientist and educator and coauthor of a new book on child safety. May 12, 2015 this feature is not available right now. No one ever holds the cup for the other person and pours the tea in their mouth, so it is always clear whether they consent or not.

Tea and consent, a wonderful psa by the thames valley police. Mar 12, 2015 why sexual consent is just like offering someone a cup of tea. Blue seat studios tea consent explains the idea of sexual consent through the act of offering someone a cup of tea. I think that it is an awesome starting point for talking about consent. Jun 10, 2016 the very british video helping americans understand sexual consent. Sexual consent really isnt like a cup of tea but at. Why the tea metaphor for consent is problematic affinity. Although the video is socially known as sex is like a cup of tea, the original is actually called tea consent. Respecting that when they dont say no, it doesnt mean yes. Chances are that youve heard of the tea metaphor for sexual consent. It is also stupid because you the tea drinker is always in control anyway.

She writes, if youre still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, youre making them a cup of tea. The video has been widely shared on social media in the wake of the lenient. Bringing tea into this conversation, well, waters down the concept of consent. Originally posted on march 2, 2015 by rockstar dinosaur pirate princess. This 2015 video released by british police attempts to explain sexual consent using a cup of tea as an analogy for sex. Of course, when it comes to sexual consent, theres a lot more nuance, and despite the moans people sometimes make when eating good food, sex is not food. Like many things youll have to use common sense and judgement to draw the line and like many such things these lines are blurry. This is a smart, playful guide to consent and bodily autonomy. Get your team aligned with all the tools you need on one secure, reliable video platform. Tea and consent, a wonderful psa by the thames valley police featuring stick figures, initially seems like a. But a cup of tea was barely worth the ninetynine cents. This video explains sexual consent in the simplest way possible. By continuing to use this site, we assume you consent for cookies to be used.

Its as simple as tea video, which uses a cup of tea as a. The very british video helping americans understand sexual. If you say, hey, would you like a cup of tea and theyre like you know, im not really sure then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it and if they dont drink it then and this is the important bit. Consent is like a cup of tea fearless she wrote medium. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading a cup of tea. Consent is a pretty straightforward concept, but sadly its still a topic of debate for some people. As she worked herself into exhaustion to build her product, she had a conversion.

No way would the people act the way they do, in that era, in that socioeconomic class that they do in this book. I like this sort of novel for lengthy plane flightsfrothy, romantic and not very deep. Wander into this sequestered basement and youll be transported to a story land inspired by lewis carroll. Sit back, pour yourself a cup of tea, and enjoy a website that meets all of your literary needs. Sexual consent explained in terms of making a cup of tea. The real problem with the teaconsent metaphor literally, darling.

If youre still struggling with consent just imagine instead of initiating sex youre making them a cup of tea. Consent and a cup of tea kawartha sexual assault centre. Id avoided watching the infamous tea video for a while. Like many people i often imagine nigella lawson asking if id like a cup of tea. Welcome to cup of tea with that book please, a blog dedicated to books. From tea guru sebastian beckwith and new york times bestsellers caroline paul and wendy macnaughton comes the essential guide to exploring and enjoying the vast world of tea. Being slightly inebriated is not an impediment to giving informed consent but if someone is so drunk that they dont know where they are this is obviously not someone capable of giving consent. It features animated stick figures and uses a cup of tea as an analogy for sex. Consent explained with a cup of tea white ribbon new zealand. Then, as the video says, you can make them a cup of tea, but be aware they might not drink it. Nov 16, 2015 the video says that those struggling to understand sexual consent might imagine that, instead of initiating sex, theyre offering to make someone a cup of tea.

Alices tea cup restaurants in upper west side, new york. It was a short video that compared sexual consent to a cup of tea. Sexual consent really isnt like a cup of tea but at least were talking about it. The very british video helping americans understand sexual consent. This is tea consent clean by the scholars academy on vimeo, the home for high quality videos and the people who love them.

Sep 28, 2018 amy tiemann is a neuroscientist and educator and coauthor of a new book on child safety. No means no is one way to go, but never before has consent been tackled with such elegant and funny simplicity than in this video that uses offering someone a cup of tea as a premise. Tea, the most popular beverage in the world after water, has brought nations to war, defined cultures, bankrupted coffers, and toppled kings. The independent consent is as simple as a cup of tea facebook. Understand consent with the help of stick figures and a cup of tea. In her book, though, brian takes it one step further and explores the. However, before i go deeper into explaining why i find this analogy useful. You hand the tea cup to the person, and they drink. Why sexual consent is just like offering someone a cup of tea. Nov 16, 2015 if youre still struggling with consent just imagine instead of initiating sex youre making them a cup of tea. Discover unique things to do, places to eat, and sights to see in the best destinations around the world with bring me.

My cup of tea was an interesting read that is full of drama, love, and mystery. Aug 07, 2017 i think that it is an awesome starting point for talking about consent. Upworthy using tea to explain sexual consent in a way. This darkly romantic novel engages us with impeccable plotting and a deep sense of foreboding, propelling us toward its shocking conclusion. Mar 11, 2015 consent is a pretty straightforward concept, but sadly its still a topic of debate for some people. The teaconsent metaphor provides an important lesson in. For example, during a hookup, ask if its okay to take your partners shirt off. That i even had to write that headline should tell you everything you need to know about the anticampus sexual assault movement. If youre still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, youre making them a cup of tea, she suggests. If you say, hey, would you like a cup of tea and theyre like you know, im not really sure then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not drink it and if they dont drink it. Tea and consent video this video brilliantly explains sexual consent with a simple cup of tea analogy. If youre still struggling with consent, just imagine instead of initiating sex, youre making them a cup of tea. You know, the one that compares forcing someone to drink tea to rape. The novella is based on the similarly titled short story by katherine mansfield.

This sexual consent instructional video is everyones. Consent and a cup of tea a guide for parents and guardians when talking to teens and young adults about sexual consent it is never okay to offer someone tea, but then slip in some alcohol or drugs to make it a special tea. Putting alcohol or drugs in someones drink without their knowledge is considered assault and is against the law. Whether its tea or sex, consent is everything interesting. Mar 19, 2016 although the video is socially known as sex is like a cup of tea, the original is actually called tea consent. Set during wwi, the story begins when the privileged rosemary fell decides to bring home a. Understand consent with the help of stick figures and a cup. This is from the creator of the wonderful tea guide to consent meme, where consent to sex is made much easier to understand by thinking of it as offering a cup of tea instead. Ephrons a cup of tea is a quick read but not one id personally recommend.